Adele Speaks to Me

Admittedly, I did not watch the Grammy's this year. I watched approximately three minutes of the end, which included Adele winning record and album of the year. Adele's acceptance speech for album of the year had me in tears and it wasn't because she said Beyoncé deserved it (trust me, I think Adele deserved the award). What had me choked up was her description of losing parts of herself when she became a mom and that she still struggles because it's hard. I feel that way every day! Men don't understand this and it feels like it's a taboo subject with women. If I ever try to talk about this I feel judged as a bad mom when I'm really not. It's hard to explain how you lose bits of yourself when a child is birthed, and even harder to explain what it feels like when you are being pieced back together. I finally feel that I am coming back together, but it's taken almost two years!

I understand Adele, and I feel a lot of moms do. The next morning on the radio I heard people trying to say that motherhood couldn't possibly be hard for her because she's rich and probably has a handful of nannies. While this is all likely

true, life is different for every woman when they enter motherhood. I'm not saying I don't enjoy motherhood, it's just very different from life before. Apparently a woman's brain is changed forever, research tells us this. I believe that to be all new moms have to contend with . . . figuring out how their brain now works, almost like a newborn in a life that has already been half lived.

Anyway, those are my thoughts for the day. What do you think?

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